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Graphic Gay Sex

I am an advocate of the complete integration of Gays, Lesbians, Bisexuals and Transexuals (GLBT) in the society they live in. And I believe that by sincerely showing graphic gay sex in films as well as other materials, we hasten the process of this integration.
The visual representation of gay sex may be offensive to many people. But it is a visual message needed by this advocacy. My conjecture is that when people are exposed to such images, the idea that “gay sex” is a predominantly natural act for a significant segment of our population becomes easier to comprehend for most people.

There is this popular church who declared to “love the sinner. but hate their sins.” And this has led to society accepting gay men as productive individuals but reject the very idea of their sexual behavior and their sexual preferences.
Accepting us gay men as productive individuals is not enough. Society certainly benefits from our productivity. We are tax payers. And some gay men in the Philippines even controls some of the most powerful corporations in the country.
But I don’t think this so called “acceptance” or tolerance accorded to us gay men is not enough.
Society has to stop forwning on our sexual preferences and behavior. Gay sex is very much a part of animal behavior albeit it is not reproductive. And whether you reject evolutionism or not, animal behavior is at the core of human behavior. And more importantly, love among the same sexes is as genuine as its straight counterpart no matter what your bible say about it.
Gay sex is normal. Gay love is genuine. And society must begin to accept it.
For these very reasons, I shall continue to promote the representation of honest, sincere and sometimes graphic gay sex in media.
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11 Responses

  1. Maybe I am misreading your post, but I fail to see how a militant-in-your-face-confrontational approach to integration could achieve favorable end results. It would appear that this method may just cause a backlash and additional resistance from the opposing party. I know, if I were in their shoes, my initial impulse would be to push back harder and get more defensive.

    Force-feeding orthodox society copious amounts of same sex fornication–as much as I might enjoy watching it–hardly seems to be the path to acceptance. Change comes from a different place.
    Would it not be more pertinent to demonstrate a commonness?
    As Neil Patrick Harris puts it in this month’s Out magazine interview: “I’m striving to be an example of normalcy.”
    Showing how we are alike in life, love, grief and sorrow would seems less hostile and more prone to a better understanding.

    Yes, (any) sex is normal, but there is more to being a homo then what–and how– you do for a few minutes with a person of the same gender.

    In the end, does it truly matter what others think? Does it matter a minute from now, seven generations from now?..

  2. Thank you for this brilliant insight.

    This presents the other side to complete the communication “agenda” for the interation of homosexuality and its permutations in a particular society.

    You are right, commonness must be underscored. And It is something that everyone will agree in.

    But I am coming from the idea where how different we are must also be underscored in order to promote diversity.

    When Madonna represented sexual expression for women, it gathered a lot of resistance. But it actually forced women’s sexual liberation into mainstream pop culture. The rise of the then “unpopular” hippie movement met a lot of resistance from popular culture, but it actually paved the way for people to think that there is more to life than industrialism.

    Following this stream of cultural integration, this leads me to believe that It is when we boldly wear our uniqueness as a segment of the population that we encourage the acceptance of our diversity.

    In your final, important question, does it really matter what other people think of us?

    Certainly. Social acceptance is important if we want to have a place in this civilized world we live in.

  3. Ehrmmm…

    A place in the civilized world is everyone’s birth right and does not depend on social acceptance.

    I am aware that we live in different cultures, but, Madonna, a tireless self-promoter, uses sex to shock and sell, not for acceptance or to further women’s issues.
    The hippies of the 60s became the yuppies of the 80s when they figured out that you can’t fight the system (if you can’t beat them, join them).

    It is not our differences which unite us, it is what we have in common. Our differences make us unique and special.

    In the end, it does not matter what others think as long as you know that you live your life to the best of your abilities without causing any intentional harm to others.

  4. But we are a minority. Social acceptance is something that we continuously struggle for. Otherwise, we could simply lose what other gay men from the previous generations have fought for.

    Yes, we are united with what is common among us. But that’s not the point of this post.

    The post is about a communication strategy wherein where we clearly explain how different we are to people through media, understanding and acceptance follows.

    More importantly, this post is not about how we think about ourselves. That is a differnt topic within the realm of psychology. This post is just about communicating our differences in the hope that eventually, we could be completely understood and accepted for who we really are.

  5. I don’t know if I’d agree with the “graphic” part, but it’s hard not to agree that people need to see and experience something in order to get used to it. Something becomes “normal” when it is, um, normal…meaning that it’s a common occurrence. So, yes, I should hold my boyfriend’s hand in public (well, if I had one…but that’s another story). People may not want to see that but, first, too bad; and second, the more people see it, the more they’ll get used to it, and, over time, it becomes normal. Now, I just have to find a boyfriend whose hand I can hold!

  6. hi sana makuha ako kahit extra lang hahhaa

  7. sana makuha ako kahit extra lang hehe

  8. There is a theory that true homosexuals are actually the most highly evolved of people. The Eternal Child by Clive Bromhall is a great book that explains this as part of a larger theory that man has evolved into an infantized ape. It seems to solve every mystery about man including homosexuality and even why we are the only primate that lacks a penis bone (who hasn’t wondered that?)

  9. Homosexuality, heterosexuality, blah blah blah, the either/or dogmatic image of thought that structures both sides of this argument does eventually get boring. Presenting copious amount of gay sex to people can backfire since people become desensitized to the overwhelming amount of heterosexuality paraded before them at every moment. Gay sex produces anxiety in people about sex in general and then the fascists appear with soothing words and simplistic political ideas of how to make right. So I guess the concern is that too much of gay sex could simply desensitize people to “gays” and not restructure normative thought on homosexuality in general.

  10. But it seems most gays or lesbians in different countries are having a hard time struggling for their rights, with only few successful cases. So….

  11. I absolutely agree about not shying away from depicting gay sex. However it should never be done for any cause. Sex in film and other types of media is tackled differently based on a number of factors, such as its importance to the story or message the writer/director is trying to put across and the intended audience etc…

    But there should not be a difference in how straight sex is shown and how gay sex is. I find that in the UK there are more risks being taken when it comes to showing gay sex on television but it is always portrayed in a way a straight overly liberal middle class person perceives it to be. Meaning it is usually quite dated or shows one man experiencing pleasure at the expense of another man’s pain. Which is not accurate and it is not caring.

    As we all know, gay sex is as diverse as straight sex (if not, more) there are rough fuckers and there are those who “make love.”

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